SWITCHING BETWEEN HABIT & DESIRE. There are two options for ourselves in responding someone else. We will make a response depending on our tendency that typically for ourselves. It's what we call the way we response someone. It's like a reflect. It's like our habits.
But while we can't make a proper response or our response were blocked. Or when our responses can't be accepted, then we will switch our strategy to another way that inline with our desire.
So, in a short, at first there are responses (first layer) and our desires (second layer). While our responses typically can't be accepted then the next responses will be pulled in line with our desires.